All of this commentary. All of it. Fuck this idiocy. People who should come out of the closet: no one, unless it is safe and healthy for them to do so.
Seriously? “If you’re hiding anything, no matter how good your reason is, then you’re ashamed of it”? No. NO. FUCK NO.
COMING OUT COMPROMISES YOUR SAFETY. COMING OUT CAN GET YOU TRAUMATIZED, SENT TO THERAPY, BEATEN, RAPED, TORTURED, DISOWNED, AND MURDERED. YOU CAN LOSE YOUR JOB. YOU CAN LOSE YOUR FAMILY. YOU CAN LOSE EVERYTHING. COMING OUT IS NOT A REQUIREMENT.
“Ashamed”? No. Fuck. No. This attitude is what’s shaming. This attitude comes from a position of safety and privilege and it completely ignores the reality that many people, in many countries, put their fucking lives in danger by talking about who they are—no matter how proud they are to be that way. Being comfortable with your own sexuality or gender identity does not keep you from getting killed. It does not keep you from being hated. And being afraid or unwilling to ruin your life on other people’s violent prejudice does not make you weak—it means there’s a big problem with a system that it’s not your responsibility to fix by putting yourself in the line of fire. In fact, it means you’re maybe not the one in a position to fix it, because you’re too busy surviving. And survival is noble enough, if that’s what you’re facing. If you choose that your responsibility is privacy and safety, that’s legitimate, it’s respectable, and it’s NOT ANYONE ELSE’S FUCKING BUSINESS.
“Because they couldn’t understand it gets better”? I can’t believe you just made a statement that more or less reads, “I had to show these poor children the light! Cannot believe they thought their current situation actually matters in the long run! Not like it doesn’t get better! I will enlighten you.”
She seriously just SHAMED CHILDREN FOR BEING AFRAID? For the record: it doesn’t always get better. It also doesn’t always matter if it could get better. If you are being tortured by your classmates at the age of fourteen, some benevolent promise by people who aren’t in that situation anymore who are so tired of your pain isn’t going to just flip a switch and make you go “Oh, okay! I guess I’ll just endure my daily suffering at the hands of tiny bigots and think about the future!” What a fucking ridiculous thing to say. What a flippant, unempathetic, egotistical thing to say.
If you give that much a shit about queers, maybe pay attention enough to know that the problem isn’t with their perceptions.